Taking premarital counseling before saying I Do, will save you for the rest of your life.

Most of us chose to get married in the future, but this pandemic is making us think twice should we marry our long time special someone now? Do we have no time left? Maybe the next day he/she dies? Hold yourself not because there is a pandemic you need to marry. You need to think wisely before saying I Do. Before, doing a huge mistake for the rest of your life you need to take premarital counseling.  Reverend Birchfield answers questions submitted via the @VogueWeddings Instagram about premarital counseling to help you decide to say I Do.

Who should I go to for premarital counseling?

-Premarital counseling can be provided by a licensed marriage and/or family therapist, or counseling might be offered through religious institutions, like a member of the clergy. Some spiritual leaders even require it before conducting a marriage ceremony.

I already have a therapist. Should I go to them for premarital counseling, or should I find someone else?

-When dealing with premarital or marital issues you want to seek a specialist in the kind of counseling you are seeking.

What is the most popular reason people do premarital counseling?

-The number one reason almost all my couples come to me is to improve and sharpen their communication skills.

Is it normal to talk about money during sessions?

-Absolutely. The most common issues pertaining to money are things such as "Is there enough money?" and "Do I have a voice?" Prenups also come up. Money, finances we are here to facilitate a conversation around money which, to be honest, is one of the leading reasons people get divorced.

Do people break up because of premarital counseling?

-They’re not breaking up because of counseling, but because there’s something they discovered that’s no longer helping them to connect. That’s why you need to sit down and find out what’s really beneath your relationships and make adjustments and improvements early on. We encourage couples to be sincere, authentic, and truthful with us, themselves, and each other; even if it means parting ways before reaching the altar.